The Embodied Empress can love without losing herself.
Whether you're dating or already with someone, this workshop series is for women ready to reclaim their worth, embody their power, and transform how they show up in love.
Created and taught live by Kayle Koepke, renowned New York therapist and certified sex, love & relationship coach, who's spent more than 20 years helping people untangle what love brings up in them.
The thing about love and relationships is — you want something real. Something special. Something that feels good to you and to the person you're with. So far, that's not how things are working out. Instead, you keep:
Feeling confident and capable everywhere else in your life — but in love, you're easily triggered and suddenly feeling like a child again
Downplaying what you really want, to be more "realistic"
Noticing when something feels off about who you're with — then ignoring your instincts, because you want it to work out
Trying to be more easygoing, less needy, or some compressed version of yourself that you think will be easier to love
Watching yourself play out the same pattern over and over again — even though you've tried to change it
The challenge isn't simply knowing your worth. Knowing isn't enough! It's learning how to stay connected to it — and live from it — even when love activates your deepest fears, insecurities, and oldest patterns.
In real life, that looks like accepting your desires. Communicating what you need. Honoring your boundaries. Trusting your intuition. Recognizing when you're abandoning yourself in order to be chosen, loved, or kept — and learning to feel safe choosing differently.
IT'S TIME TO ANSWER ONE QUESTION:
When it comes to dating and relationships — are you hoping someone chooses you, or are you the one doing the choosing?
Those are two completely different ways to be in love!
And here's the part that changes everything once you see it: shaping yourself to be chosen can't get you the love you want — even when it works.
Because if someone falls for the version of you that you made for them, they haven't really fallen for you.
The pretending fails even when it succeeds.
But when you're the one choosing — when you know your standards, your boundaries, what's okay and what isn't, how you love and how you want to be loved — then whoever loves you is loving the real you.
That's the love you've been after the whole time.
The Journey
Over four weeks, you move through four archetypes — each one representing a stage of the work. (They come from tarot, but no tarot knowledge or interest in tarot is needed. Think of them as four portraits of a woman coming home to herself.)
Click the arrow on each week to learn more.
October 7 ∙ The Empress
October 14 ∙ The Hanged Man
October 21 ∙ The Emperor
October 28 ∙ The World
Move through all four weeks, and you become The Embodied Empress: a woman who knows her worth, remains connected to herself, honors her desires, communicates her needs, and makes conscious choices about who and how she loves.
More Than a Workshop
This is an experiential journey — not four weeks of sitting on Zoom listening to someone talk about relationships!
Each workshop combines teaching, guided meditations, embodiment practices, experiential exercises, dialectical behavior therapy informed skills, self-reflection, and group discussion.
You take home materials and practices, so the work continues between sessions — in your actual dating life or relationship, where it counts.
Because it's one thing to understand healthier relationships intellectually. It's another thing entirely to practice becoming the woman who can create and sustain one.
Each 90-minute workshop includes:
About 60 minutes of teaching, meditation, and embodiment practice, live with Kayle on Zoom
30 optional minutes of discussion, sharing, and Q&A — stay if you'd like, leave at the hour if you need to
Take-home materials and practices for the week ahead
Meet Kayle
Hi! I'm a therapist who specializes in the shifts that move love and relationships from what you've been struggling with to what you've been wanting all along.
I've spent more than twenty years sitting with people while they untangle what love and relationships bring up in them.
Here's what I've learned: you're probably not short on insight. The thing most people struggle with is staying themselves when the person they're with activates an old fear, an old trigger, an old pattern. The best news? This is completely possible to shift. And it's often easier than you think.
✶ Licensed Mental Health Counselor
✶ Certified in Dialectical Behavior Therapy
✶ Certified VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coach
✶ Certified Biddy Tarot Advisor
✶ Trained in Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Somatic Therapy
✶ Completed AEDP Level 2 Training and Usui Reiki Level II
The Investment
Pay In Full
$500
Best Deal
✶ The entire Embodied Empress curriculum for dating & relationships taught over 4, 90-minute virtual Zoom meetings, led live by Kayle
✶ Weekly take-home materials and practices for in-between workshops
Two Payments of
$275
$550 Total
✶ The entire Embodied Empress curriculum for dating & relationships taught over 4, 90-minute virtual Zoom meetings, led live by Kayle
✶ Weekly take-home materials and practices for in-between workshops
Special Live Workshop Bonus!
Attend one of the free September workshops and enroll in The Embodied Empress with payment in full that same day to receive a complimentary 60-minute private session with Kayle — a $300 value!
You can use this private session to personalize the work around your relationship patterns, dating experiences, current relationship, or what you most want to create in love.
The workshops give you the framework. The private session makes it yours.
Not Sure Yet? Come Experience It First — Free.
Over three Wednesdays in September, join Kayle for a free 30-minute mini workshop streamed live on YouTube. Experience the work, learn a tool you can use that same day, and see whether The Embodied Empress feels right for you.
Free September Mini Workshops · Wednesdays · 1:30–2:00 PM Eastern
Sept 16
SEE YOURSELF
Stop Losing Yourself in Love
Why you get triggered and how to come back to yourself. Explore:
✶ Why you can feel grounded and capable in other areas of life but suddenly feel like a younger version of yourself in love
✶ Facts vs. the story you're creating about the facts
✶ What happens in the body when you're emotionally activated
✶ Identifying the fear, desire, or need underneath the reaction
✶ Interrupting automatic relationship patterns
✶ Choosing how to respond from your empowered adult self rather than an activated part
Sept 23
COME BACK TO AUTHENTIC SELF
Why Knowing Your Worth Isn't Enough
How to embody your worth when love activates you. Explore:
✶ Knowing your worth intellectually vs. actually embodying it
✶ What happens to self-worth when you deeply want someone or fear losing a relationship
✶ People-pleasing, shape-shifting, and seeking validation
✶ Identifying the fear, desire, or need underneath the reaction
✶ The desire to be chosen vs. becoming the one who is choosing
✶ Recognizing when you're ignoring your own desires or needs to preserve connection
✶ Staying rooted in your worth through rejection, disappointment, uncertainty, and relationship challenges
✶ Experiencing a short Embodied Empress embodiment practice
Sept 30
ACT FROM YOUR HIGHEST, WISEST SELF
Red Flag, Trigger, or Something You Need to Talk About?
How to know the difference & trust yourself, communicate what you need. Explore:
✶ How to distinguish between a red flag, an emotional trigger, and a relationship issue that simply needs to be addressed
✶ Separating what actually happened from then meaning you're placing on it
✶ Understanding what a situation is activating within you
✶ Discerning whether your reaction is connected to your history, the other person's behavior — or both
✶ Identifying what you actually need
✶ Communicating your needs clearly and directly
✶ Setting boundaries and deciding what to do based on the other person's response and what's best for you
FAQ
Is this therapy?
Do I need to know anything about tarot?
I'm in a relationship. Is this still for me?
Is this only for women?
What if I can't make a session live?
Do I have to share or talk in the group?
How much time does this take each week?
What's your refund policy?
